“… doing our duty to all with whom we are conected …”
In the days just before the Revolution Alice Lee Shippen, of the Virginia Lees, was living in Philadelphia with her husband Dr. William Shippen. They entertained a good deal often hosting the Virginia delegation to the Continental Congresses. (See the Shippen house on the left.) When the war began, the doctor left to serve with the Continental Army, eventually becoming Director General and Chief Physician. The Shippens had sent their two children to boarding school in the hope that they would be safe from the battling armies. Anne, known as Nancy, was at Mrs. Roger’s School in Trenton, New Jersey, and Thomas at Needwood Forest Academy in Frederick Town, Maryland. Alice Shippen’s letter to her fourteen-year-old daughter in 1777 gives a good idea of how a young girl was expected to behave and what was thought to be important for her to learn. There is a strange disconnect between the concerns of mother and daughter and the war being waged.
My dear Nancy
I was extremely surprized when the waggon return’d the other evening without one line from you after I had been at the trouble & expence of sending for you as soon as I was inform’d 4000 troops were landed in Elizabeth-Town. Surely you should not omit any opportunity of writing to me, but to neglect such a one was inexcusable, but I shall say the less to you now, because you have been taught your duty & I take it for granted Mrs. Rogers has already reproved you for so great an omission, but do remember my dear how much of the beauty & usefulness of life depends on a proper conduct in the several relations in life, & the sweet peace that flows from the consideration of doing our duty to all with whom we are conected. I am sorry it is not in my power to get you the things I promised. It was late before I got to Philadelphia the afternoon I left you & the shops were shut the next day. I have looked all over this place but no muslin, satin or dimity can be got. …
Your Pappa thinks you had better work a pr. of ruffles for General Washington if you can get proper muslin. … Tell me how you improve in your work. Needle work is a most important branch of a female education, & tell me how you have improved in holding your head & sholders, in making a curtsy, in going out or coming into a room, in giving & receiving, holding your knife & fork, walking & seting. These things contribute so much to a good appearance they are of great consequence. Perhaps you will be at a loss how to judge wether you improve or not, take this rule therefore for your assistance. You may be sure you improve in proportion to the degree of ease with which you do any thing as you have been taught to do it … ask Mrs. Rogers opinion as a friend who now acts for you in my place … Give my compliments to her & tell her I thank her for the care she takes of you. … Dont offend Miss Jones by speaking against the Quakers. … There is an alarm here the enemy are said to be coming this way, tis lucky you are not with me. … I believe I will write to you as soon as I get settled [in Maryland]. Farewell my dear. Be good & you will surely be happy which will contribute very much to the happiness of
Your Affect. Mother A. Shippen.









